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| John Lewis tantrum toddler: Was store right? | John Lewis tantrum toddler: Was store right? |
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| A woman has said she was made to feel like a "rubbish mum" after she was thrown out of John Lewis because her 16-month-old daughter had a tantrum. The Trafford Centre store has since apologised, but was it right or wrong to ask her to leave? | |
| As you look down at your screaming, red-faced child, the last thing you are probably thinking about is whether you are upsetting your fellow shoppers. | As you look down at your screaming, red-faced child, the last thing you are probably thinking about is whether you are upsetting your fellow shoppers. |
| Yet this is presumably what was going through the mind of one "over-zealous" member of staff at the John Lewis store in the Trafford Centre when they asked mum Lindsay Robinson to leave the shop after "receiving a complaint". | |
| The 36-year-old told the Manchester Evening News her 16-month-old daughter was making her discontent loudly known when an employee from menswear approached her and said: "You will have to leave". | The 36-year-old told the Manchester Evening News her 16-month-old daughter was making her discontent loudly known when an employee from menswear approached her and said: "You will have to leave". |
| The store has since apologised and said the member of staff was "out of order", but not before the story provoked national debate. BBC News spoke to parenting bloggers and experts to get the view from the parenting trenches. | The store has since apologised and said the member of staff was "out of order", but not before the story provoked national debate. BBC News spoke to parenting bloggers and experts to get the view from the parenting trenches. |
| Emma Conway, author of the blog Brummymummyof2, celebrates the stroppiest of toddlers with 'Wicked Wednesdays' - a post dedicated to photos of her followers' children in the midst of DefCon-level meltdowns. | Emma Conway, author of the blog Brummymummyof2, celebrates the stroppiest of toddlers with 'Wicked Wednesdays' - a post dedicated to photos of her followers' children in the midst of DefCon-level meltdowns. |
| She said the store's decision was "completely wrong" and hoped the chain wasn't "too posh for tantrums". | She said the store's decision was "completely wrong" and hoped the chain wasn't "too posh for tantrums". |
| "John Lewis is a bit more subdued so perhaps it was highlighted more than say in Asda, where it's bigger and you might not notice," she said. | "John Lewis is a bit more subdued so perhaps it was highlighted more than say in Asda, where it's bigger and you might not notice," she said. |
| "But the store should have been a bit kinder. As a mother of a small human, if I was asked to leave a nice store I would be mortified. | "But the store should have been a bit kinder. As a mother of a small human, if I was asked to leave a nice store I would be mortified. |
| "My children have had tantrums everywhere. They're natural and you can't predict when they're going to happen." | "My children have had tantrums everywhere. They're natural and you can't predict when they're going to happen." |
| Why do toddlers have tantrums? | Why do toddlers have tantrums? |
| Comedian Sam Avery said he would be furious if he found himself in a similar situation. | Comedian Sam Avery said he would be furious if he found himself in a similar situation. |
| 'Terrible parent' | 'Terrible parent' |
| "There's nothing more annoying than a child screaming," said the father of twin boys. | "There's nothing more annoying than a child screaming," said the father of twin boys. |
| "But the subtext is them saying: "You're a terrible parent, please go and be a terrible parent in the street away from our expensive goods. | "But the subtext is them saying: "You're a terrible parent, please go and be a terrible parent in the street away from our expensive goods. |
| "If your kids are having a tantrum it's the hardest part of your week or even your month, so if someone stepped in and asked me to leave I would throw a tantrum myself." | "If your kids are having a tantrum it's the hardest part of your week or even your month, so if someone stepped in and asked me to leave I would throw a tantrum myself." |
| Kathryn Mewes, star of Channel 4's parenting programme The Three Day Nanny, said parents are powerless to stop children having a tantrum and the best way to handle it is to go somewhere private. | Kathryn Mewes, star of Channel 4's parenting programme The Three Day Nanny, said parents are powerless to stop children having a tantrum and the best way to handle it is to go somewhere private. |
| "Personally, if I was running a business and a child was having a tantrum, I would quietly get them to another area," she said. | "Personally, if I was running a business and a child was having a tantrum, I would quietly get them to another area," she said. |
| "I believe the lady needed to leave the shop, or at least the floor, and find a quite corner to allow her child to vent her anger and calm down, then continue shopping. | "I believe the lady needed to leave the shop, or at least the floor, and find a quite corner to allow her child to vent her anger and calm down, then continue shopping. |
| "The member of staff didn't say 'leave John Lewis and never return', but it was insensitive. Had they used different language, it would have gone down a lot better." | "The member of staff didn't say 'leave John Lewis and never return', but it was insensitive. Had they used different language, it would have gone down a lot better." |
| Katie Kirby, author of the parenting blog, Hurrah for Gin, said she was shocked by the shop's reaction and put it down to an "over-zealous" member of staff. | Katie Kirby, author of the parenting blog, Hurrah for Gin, said she was shocked by the shop's reaction and put it down to an "over-zealous" member of staff. |
| But the mum-of-two said her tactic is to avoid the combination of children and shopping altogether where possible. | But the mum-of-two said her tactic is to avoid the combination of children and shopping altogether where possible. |
| "If I was just browsing, I would have left," she said of Ms Robinson's situation. "But if you're in the middle of shopping, you can't just leave and you can't let children dictate your life. | "If I was just browsing, I would have left," she said of Ms Robinson's situation. "But if you're in the middle of shopping, you can't just leave and you can't let children dictate your life. |
| "I don't take my children shopping, if I can avoid it I will, because kids don't like doing boring stuff." | "I don't take my children shopping, if I can avoid it I will, because kids don't like doing boring stuff." |