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| Andrea Leadsom’s motherhood insult was contemptible but the motherhood myth is persistent | |
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| Andrea Leadsom’s withdrawal from a dirty battle is cause for muted celebration, even if it does wipe out the homeopathic quantity of democracy offered by a contest between her and Theresa May. She threw herself into post-truth, street-fighting politics with appalling gusto, and it is a relief not to have to watch that play out. | Andrea Leadsom’s withdrawal from a dirty battle is cause for muted celebration, even if it does wipe out the homeopathic quantity of democracy offered by a contest between her and Theresa May. She threw herself into post-truth, street-fighting politics with appalling gusto, and it is a relief not to have to watch that play out. |
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| May, of course, is no stranger to the street-fighting side of politics. Who could forget her famous fantasy cat – star of her 2011 speech to Conservative conference – who prevented the deportation of a heinous Bolivian criminal, because of Europe. “I’m not making this up!” she finished, gleefully, to which all the forces of justice and human rights responded, agape, “But yes, you are making it up.” (It had nothing to do with Europe; it had nothing to do with a cat.) | May, of course, is no stranger to the street-fighting side of politics. Who could forget her famous fantasy cat – star of her 2011 speech to Conservative conference – who prevented the deportation of a heinous Bolivian criminal, because of Europe. “I’m not making this up!” she finished, gleefully, to which all the forces of justice and human rights responded, agape, “But yes, you are making it up.” (It had nothing to do with Europe; it had nothing to do with a cat.) |
| May was also the driving force behind the “Go home or face arrest” vans – racist vans, for short – in which the truly seedy detail was that there were only two, one for the press call and another just so that they wouldn’t have to admit to only having one. It would have been terrible policy, had it been a policy; but instead it was just a stunt, a flash of hostility, like baring your teeth or getting “hate” tattooed on your knuckles. | May was also the driving force behind the “Go home or face arrest” vans – racist vans, for short – in which the truly seedy detail was that there were only two, one for the press call and another just so that they wouldn’t have to admit to only having one. It would have been terrible policy, had it been a policy; but instead it was just a stunt, a flash of hostility, like baring your teeth or getting “hate” tattooed on your knuckles. |
| However, Theresa May’s promulgation of Ukip-flavoured untruths was only sporadic and never looked heartfelt. She was always a bit-part player in the Lynton Crosbyfication of politics – where the wronger it is, the more you should say it, because unbridled nastiness reaches places that mere reason won’t reach. | However, Theresa May’s promulgation of Ukip-flavoured untruths was only sporadic and never looked heartfelt. She was always a bit-part player in the Lynton Crosbyfication of politics – where the wronger it is, the more you should say it, because unbridled nastiness reaches places that mere reason won’t reach. |
| In the leadership contest, May was the non-pig in George Bernard Shaw’s axiom: never wrestle with a pig, you both get dirty and the pig likes it. The pig, stalking off stage, didn’t seem to enjoy it very much, but did the other part hold? Has May been sullied by any of the wrestling? Specifically the notion that, being childless, she is a sad woman with no stake in the future? | In the leadership contest, May was the non-pig in George Bernard Shaw’s axiom: never wrestle with a pig, you both get dirty and the pig likes it. The pig, stalking off stage, didn’t seem to enjoy it very much, but did the other part hold? Has May been sullied by any of the wrestling? Specifically the notion that, being childless, she is a sad woman with no stake in the future? |
| Andrea Leadsom’s remarks about May were distinctive more for their lack of sophistication than for any new content | Andrea Leadsom’s remarks about May were distinctive more for their lack of sophistication than for any new content |
| The childless woman in politics is seen simultaneously to have sacrificed her chance of motherhood at the altar of her ambition, and therefore to be too serious and not relatable enough, while being flighty and living an eternal present. It is contradictory and often unspoken, like all the best misogynistic slurs; you can rarely take it on directly, and when you do, you are dragged down by its own incoherence. | The childless woman in politics is seen simultaneously to have sacrificed her chance of motherhood at the altar of her ambition, and therefore to be too serious and not relatable enough, while being flighty and living an eternal present. It is contradictory and often unspoken, like all the best misogynistic slurs; you can rarely take it on directly, and when you do, you are dragged down by its own incoherence. |
| Andrea Leadsom’s remarks about Theresa May were distinctive more for their lack of sophistication than for any new content. | Andrea Leadsom’s remarks about Theresa May were distinctive more for their lack of sophistication than for any new content. |
| The same critique emerged from Yvette Cooper’s camp about Liz Kendall in the Labour leadership battle last year. Cooper herself was too smart to allude to Kendall’s child-free status directly. Instead a supporter, Helen Goodman, was deployed to write an almost unbearably saccharine piece that climaxed: “Much, much more important to me than being an MP and shadow minister is that I am a mum. I have two children and although they are both grown-up (supposedly), once a mum always a mum.” I’m a mum. She’s a mum. We get it. We get stuff that you ice-cold career harridans with your box-fresh lady parts don’t get. | The same critique emerged from Yvette Cooper’s camp about Liz Kendall in the Labour leadership battle last year. Cooper herself was too smart to allude to Kendall’s child-free status directly. Instead a supporter, Helen Goodman, was deployed to write an almost unbearably saccharine piece that climaxed: “Much, much more important to me than being an MP and shadow minister is that I am a mum. I have two children and although they are both grown-up (supposedly), once a mum always a mum.” I’m a mum. She’s a mum. We get it. We get stuff that you ice-cold career harridans with your box-fresh lady parts don’t get. |
| It is beneath contempt for women to do this to one another. The one uniting fact of sisterhood – if solidarity based on gender can exist at all – is that regardless of parenting status or stage in life, irrespective of political leaning, we all know what it’s like to be reduced to our sexual characteristics and then remorselessly judged on how tidy we keep them and what use we put them to. We all know that much, and we all – surely? – hate it. | It is beneath contempt for women to do this to one another. The one uniting fact of sisterhood – if solidarity based on gender can exist at all – is that regardless of parenting status or stage in life, irrespective of political leaning, we all know what it’s like to be reduced to our sexual characteristics and then remorselessly judged on how tidy we keep them and what use we put them to. We all know that much, and we all – surely? – hate it. |
| And yet it is rife across the political spectrum; there is something talismanic about the place of motherhood in politics, the preference for women who have borne young, that is simply accepted, then post-rationalised by those minded to speak it out loud, with the idea of children as the motivating force in the creation of a better future. It is never levelled at childless straight men, that being without genetic imprint, they cannot think in the long term: technically, this is because men are never called childless until they’re dead. Yet it is levelled at gay men, and the underlying assumption is that straight men are automatically far-sighted. This is the patriarchy at its simplest – they are already father to the future, by default. Women and gay men, meanwhile, are lesser by definition. Their sense of civic duty is never a given, and must always be proved. | And yet it is rife across the political spectrum; there is something talismanic about the place of motherhood in politics, the preference for women who have borne young, that is simply accepted, then post-rationalised by those minded to speak it out loud, with the idea of children as the motivating force in the creation of a better future. It is never levelled at childless straight men, that being without genetic imprint, they cannot think in the long term: technically, this is because men are never called childless until they’re dead. Yet it is levelled at gay men, and the underlying assumption is that straight men are automatically far-sighted. This is the patriarchy at its simplest – they are already father to the future, by default. Women and gay men, meanwhile, are lesser by definition. Their sense of civic duty is never a given, and must always be proved. |
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| Parenthood is complicated – it gives you a stake in the future in the sense that you would put your children’s wellbeing before your own, but it seems to manifest more in mawkish hand-wringing than in concrete action. If it did have a positive iteration, we would be able to see it in voting patterns. MPs with children would be more worried about climate change, more in favour of renewable energy, more invested in international peace and cooperation, more concerned about the feedback effects of increased inequality; none of these things seem to be true. | Parenthood is complicated – it gives you a stake in the future in the sense that you would put your children’s wellbeing before your own, but it seems to manifest more in mawkish hand-wringing than in concrete action. If it did have a positive iteration, we would be able to see it in voting patterns. MPs with children would be more worried about climate change, more in favour of renewable energy, more invested in international peace and cooperation, more concerned about the feedback effects of increased inequality; none of these things seem to be true. |
| This wouldn’t be a very easy rhetorical space for May to occupy – “If you parents, of whom many are in my own party, are so long-sighted, why are all your decisions so pathetically short-term?” Perhaps this is something the rest of us could do on her behalf, in the spirit of cross-party sisterhood. | This wouldn’t be a very easy rhetorical space for May to occupy – “If you parents, of whom many are in my own party, are so long-sighted, why are all your decisions so pathetically short-term?” Perhaps this is something the rest of us could do on her behalf, in the spirit of cross-party sisterhood. |
| May seems already to be gravitating towards the space of Angela Merkel, whose child-free status, once a handicap, evolved to play in her favour. Over the past decade she has become “Mutti” Merkel, which carries its own tang of sexism: that her authority can only be understood and accepted in a maternal framing (you don’t find many male premiers in advanced democracies with the nickname “Daddy”). Yet she wouldn’t have become mother to the nation if she had children of her own; the maternal projection required the vacancy. | May seems already to be gravitating towards the space of Angela Merkel, whose child-free status, once a handicap, evolved to play in her favour. Over the past decade she has become “Mutti” Merkel, which carries its own tang of sexism: that her authority can only be understood and accepted in a maternal framing (you don’t find many male premiers in advanced democracies with the nickname “Daddy”). Yet she wouldn’t have become mother to the nation if she had children of her own; the maternal projection required the vacancy. |
| The abstract motherly traits attaching to Theresa May at the moment – morality, sobriety, maturity – are ones she’s gained more in the comparison to her colleagues than she’s actually earned. Yet they may well enable her to rise above the fetish for reproduction, and thereby neutralise it. I hold out no hope at all for her furthering the lot of women generally, but this might be one helpful thing she does by accident. | The abstract motherly traits attaching to Theresa May at the moment – morality, sobriety, maturity – are ones she’s gained more in the comparison to her colleagues than she’s actually earned. Yet they may well enable her to rise above the fetish for reproduction, and thereby neutralise it. I hold out no hope at all for her furthering the lot of women generally, but this might be one helpful thing she does by accident. |