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Freezing my eggs 'helped me after rape' | Freezing my eggs 'helped me after rape' |
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At the age of 29, Winnie Li was living in London and enjoying a successful career as a film producer, working with film stars like Daniel Craig. | At the age of 29, Winnie Li was living in London and enjoying a successful career as a film producer, working with film stars like Daniel Craig. |
She had been to the Oscars where a film she had helped to produce had been nominated. | She had been to the Oscars where a film she had helped to produce had been nominated. |
But in 2008, this all came to a halt. One Saturday afternoon, while hiking in Northern Ireland, she was raped. | But in 2008, this all came to a halt. One Saturday afternoon, while hiking in Northern Ireland, she was raped. |
She says it is something she will never forget and the emotional impact stays with her. | She says it is something she will never forget and the emotional impact stays with her. |
She told the BBC: "It was awful. It went from one day, being the person I'd always been, to the next - I felt like I was gutted like a fish, unable to feel any joy or hope. | She told the BBC: "It was awful. It went from one day, being the person I'd always been, to the next - I felt like I was gutted like a fish, unable to feel any joy or hope. |
"My insides were torn out. I was a shell of the person I'd been before." | "My insides were torn out. I was a shell of the person I'd been before." |
'Path to motherhood' | 'Path to motherhood' |
Her perpetrator - a 15-year-old stranger to whom she had been giving directions - was caught. | Her perpetrator - a 15-year-old stranger to whom she had been giving directions - was caught. |
Winnie then lived in a constant state of anxiety as she waited for the trial. | Winnie then lived in a constant state of anxiety as she waited for the trial. |
She told the BBC: "I wasn't feeling emotions. I was just in shock for months." | She told the BBC: "I wasn't feeling emotions. I was just in shock for months." |
Winnie suffered severe depression, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder. She was too scared to go out and had frequent panic attacks. | Winnie suffered severe depression, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder. She was too scared to go out and had frequent panic attacks. |
She said: "I went from being a well-adjusted 29-year-old to feeling like I couldn't function anymore." | She said: "I went from being a well-adjusted 29-year-old to feeling like I couldn't function anymore." |
This experience affected her dating life. | This experience affected her dating life. |
"All my other friends were continuing on with their careers, personal lives, getting married and having kids. | "All my other friends were continuing on with their careers, personal lives, getting married and having kids. |
"And I just wasn't there - I was on a completely different trajectory." | "And I just wasn't there - I was on a completely different trajectory." |
Last year, she found herself single, aged 37. | Last year, she found herself single, aged 37. |
She said: "I was at that age where people warn you about your fertility dropping off and I wasn't anywhere further on the path to being a mother." | She said: "I was at that age where people warn you about your fertility dropping off and I wasn't anywhere further on the path to being a mother." |
It was this realisation that led her to the decision to freeze her eggs. | It was this realisation that led her to the decision to freeze her eggs. |
She had two rounds of egg freezing. And though doctors managed to harvest some viable eggs, there were not enough for her to consider them a viable insurance plan. | She had two rounds of egg freezing. And though doctors managed to harvest some viable eggs, there were not enough for her to consider them a viable insurance plan. |
She said: "A lot of women describe freezing eggs as an empowering thing. In some ways it's not. I spent thousands of pounds." | She said: "A lot of women describe freezing eggs as an empowering thing. In some ways it's not. I spent thousands of pounds." |
She says she cannot afford a third round. | She says she cannot afford a third round. |
Winnie added: "It's not necessarily given me hope but it's given me a sense of an option to see if those eggs can become a child." | Winnie added: "It's not necessarily given me hope but it's given me a sense of an option to see if those eggs can become a child." |
"I'll always know I have at least done the best I could in this situation." | "I'll always know I have at least done the best I could in this situation." |
Winnie has written a novel, Dark Chapter, inspired by her experience of being raped and the journey to recovery. | Winnie has written a novel, Dark Chapter, inspired by her experience of being raped and the journey to recovery. |
She is also working on a doctorate at the London School of Economics, exploring how social media is allowing rape survivors to tell their stories. | She is also working on a doctorate at the London School of Economics, exploring how social media is allowing rape survivors to tell their stories. |
"I learn every day from other women how difficult it is for them to put their lives back together. | "I learn every day from other women how difficult it is for them to put their lives back together. |
"But I'm hoping by sharing these stories, we can understand how we can start to heal from this kind of trauma." | "But I'm hoping by sharing these stories, we can understand how we can start to heal from this kind of trauma." |
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