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| He Lost His Best Friend. Then He Set His Sights on the Perfect Christmas Gift. | |
| (about 3 hours later) | |
| Kaleb had big plans for his best friend, KJ. To him, it was never a question of whether KJ would get out of the hospital; it was simply a question of when. | Kaleb had big plans for his best friend, KJ. To him, it was never a question of whether KJ would get out of the hospital; it was simply a question of when. |
| KJ, after all, had a history of battling a body that betrayed him: A flu shot made him sick when he was 13 months old; he learned he had leukemia shortly afterward; he had two bone-marrow transplants. | KJ, after all, had a history of battling a body that betrayed him: A flu shot made him sick when he was 13 months old; he learned he had leukemia shortly afterward; he had two bone-marrow transplants. |
| And yet KJ — Kenneth Gross Jr. — seldom complained. | And yet KJ — Kenneth Gross Jr. — seldom complained. |
| “He was happy even though he went through all that stuff,” observed Kaleb Klakulak, a 12-year-old of few words. | “He was happy even though he went through all that stuff,” observed Kaleb Klakulak, a 12-year-old of few words. |
| But years of chemotherapy and radiation ate away at KJ’s most important organ. By age 9, he had developed congestive heart failure and by Jan. 7, 2018 — a few days after his 12th birthday — KJ was admitted to a hospital full time. He needed a heart transplant. | But years of chemotherapy and radiation ate away at KJ’s most important organ. By age 9, he had developed congestive heart failure and by Jan. 7, 2018 — a few days after his 12th birthday — KJ was admitted to a hospital full time. He needed a heart transplant. |
| Kaleb, though, was undeterred. In his mind, when KJ was released, he and his mother would move north from Warren, Mich., to Romeo, Mich., where Kaleb and his family live. The two boys would reside blocks from each other, as they had when they met in the second grade. | Kaleb, though, was undeterred. In his mind, when KJ was released, he and his mother would move north from Warren, Mich., to Romeo, Mich., where Kaleb and his family live. The two boys would reside blocks from each other, as they had when they met in the second grade. |
| On May 1, though, Kaleb’s mother, Kristy Hall, took a phone call from KJ’s mother; she had a bad feeling about the call, and her intuition proved correct. | On May 1, though, Kaleb’s mother, Kristy Hall, took a phone call from KJ’s mother; she had a bad feeling about the call, and her intuition proved correct. |
| “I remember walking back home,” Ms. Hall said, “and thinking, ‘How am I going to tell my son?’” | “I remember walking back home,” Ms. Hall said, “and thinking, ‘How am I going to tell my son?’” |
| When Kaleb and KJ first met five years ago, they could not stop talking about each other and insisted on spending hours at each other’s houses. Their mothers quickly understood why their sons got along. | When Kaleb and KJ first met five years ago, they could not stop talking about each other and insisted on spending hours at each other’s houses. Their mothers quickly understood why their sons got along. |
| Both were unusually quiet and were being raised by single mothers at the time. They even looked alike, according to KJ’s mother, LaSondra Singleton. | Both were unusually quiet and were being raised by single mothers at the time. They even looked alike, according to KJ’s mother, LaSondra Singleton. |
| “Fat cheeks,” Ms. Singleton said. “I call them brothers, just of a different race.” | “Fat cheeks,” Ms. Singleton said. “I call them brothers, just of a different race.” |
| Sometimes the boys put down their video games and spent a day at Greenfield Village — a collection of historic buildings — or saw a movie. Kaleb even invited KJ to come to his church, and KJ became a regular there who loved to sing. | Sometimes the boys put down their video games and spent a day at Greenfield Village — a collection of historic buildings — or saw a movie. Kaleb even invited KJ to come to his church, and KJ became a regular there who loved to sing. |
| It all ended early this year when KJ was hospitalized for the last time. He needed a new heart and was confined to the I.C.U., with a tube in his throat that prevented him from talking. He became depressed — and doctors turned to Kaleb for help. | It all ended early this year when KJ was hospitalized for the last time. He needed a new heart and was confined to the I.C.U., with a tube in his throat that prevented him from talking. He became depressed — and doctors turned to Kaleb for help. |
| Every Tuesday, for months, Kaleb and his mother would visit KJ. The boys would play a wrestling video game and would also paint. The boys did not have to communicate verbally, their mothers said. Kaleb would pick colors for KJ seemingly knowing what he wanted. | Every Tuesday, for months, Kaleb and his mother would visit KJ. The boys would play a wrestling video game and would also paint. The boys did not have to communicate verbally, their mothers said. Kaleb would pick colors for KJ seemingly knowing what he wanted. |
| When 3 p.m. rolled around, KJ would extend his hand to pray. And on Wednesdays, Ms. Hall would FaceTime with KJ from church. Ms. Hall said KJ’s favorite worship song was “10,000 Reasons,” which she noted for its prescient verse. | When 3 p.m. rolled around, KJ would extend his hand to pray. And on Wednesdays, Ms. Hall would FaceTime with KJ from church. Ms. Hall said KJ’s favorite worship song was “10,000 Reasons,” which she noted for its prescient verse. |
| And on that day | And on that day |
| When my strength is failing | When my strength is failing |
| The end draws near | The end draws near |
| And my time has come | And my time has come |
| Still my soul will | Still my soul will |
| Sing Your praise unending | Sing Your praise unending |
| Ten thousand years | Ten thousand years |
| And then forevermore | And then forevermore |
| Forevermore | Forevermore |
| Ms. Singleton, 46, always knew her son was in for a long wait at the hospital. KJ had been exposed to many antibodies, so he would need just the right heart. In the meantime, doctors placed a device in his left ventricle hoping it would give him a better quality of life. “But it didn’t work out that way,” Ms. Singleton said. | Ms. Singleton, 46, always knew her son was in for a long wait at the hospital. KJ had been exposed to many antibodies, so he would need just the right heart. In the meantime, doctors placed a device in his left ventricle hoping it would give him a better quality of life. “But it didn’t work out that way,” Ms. Singleton said. |
| She would regularly ask her son “if he wanted his heart.” For a while, his written answer on a white board was, “Yes, Mama.” | She would regularly ask her son “if he wanted his heart.” For a while, his written answer on a white board was, “Yes, Mama.” |
| But in April, after more ups and downs, Ms. Singleton asked again. | But in April, after more ups and downs, Ms. Singleton asked again. |
| “He didn’t answer me,” she said though tears. “He just gave me a long stare.” | “He didn’t answer me,” she said though tears. “He just gave me a long stare.” |
| May 1 was a Tuesday, and Kaleb was getting ready to visit his friend. | May 1 was a Tuesday, and Kaleb was getting ready to visit his friend. |
| When Ms. Hall texted Ms. Singleton to ask if KJ was up for it, however, Ms. Singleton called back — a signal, Ms. Hall said, that “something was wrong.” | When Ms. Hall texted Ms. Singleton to ask if KJ was up for it, however, Ms. Singleton called back — a signal, Ms. Hall said, that “something was wrong.” |
| KJ had taken a turn. His mother was going to take him off life support. This visit would be a goodbye. | KJ had taken a turn. His mother was going to take him off life support. This visit would be a goodbye. |
| Ms. Hall explained the situation to her son the best way she knew how. But “he just kept looking at me,” she recalled. “It was a very, very quiet drive.” | Ms. Hall explained the situation to her son the best way she knew how. But “he just kept looking at me,” she recalled. “It was a very, very quiet drive.” |
| That day, while KJ was still alive but not conscious, Kaleb cried and touched his friend’s arm. There were other people in the hospital room, so Kaleb didn’t say much. | That day, while KJ was still alive but not conscious, Kaleb cried and touched his friend’s arm. There were other people in the hospital room, so Kaleb didn’t say much. |
| KJ died that day. Ms. Singleton, a mother of six, had stopped working when her son last went into the hospital, and she remained unemployed in the first months after his death. She could not afford a headstone. | KJ died that day. Ms. Singleton, a mother of six, had stopped working when her son last went into the hospital, and she remained unemployed in the first months after his death. She could not afford a headstone. |
| She mentioned this to Ms. Hall. Could she, perhaps, come up with a way to raise money for a marker? | She mentioned this to Ms. Hall. Could she, perhaps, come up with a way to raise money for a marker? |
| Kaleb overheard his mother discuss the request and became curious. How much did a headstone cost? Whatever it was, it was more money than he had. | Kaleb overheard his mother discuss the request and became curious. How much did a headstone cost? Whatever it was, it was more money than he had. |
| His first idea involved making KJ T-shirts and sending them to YouTube stars to ask for donations. Ms. Hall suggested something else: a PayPal donation site. Together, they decided not to simply ask for money; Kaleb would work for it. | His first idea involved making KJ T-shirts and sending them to YouTube stars to ask for donations. Ms. Hall suggested something else: a PayPal donation site. Together, they decided not to simply ask for money; Kaleb would work for it. |
| He collected enough bottles and raked enough leaves to raise $250 — about half of his original goal. The PayPal post went up after Thanksgiving. Within days, Ms. Hall and her son showed up at Ms. Singleton’s home with flowers, an apple pie and $900. The PayPal money, they hoped, would climb to $2,500 — enough, they thought, to buy the headstone. | He collected enough bottles and raked enough leaves to raise $250 — about half of his original goal. The PayPal post went up after Thanksgiving. Within days, Ms. Hall and her son showed up at Ms. Singleton’s home with flowers, an apple pie and $900. The PayPal money, they hoped, would climb to $2,500 — enough, they thought, to buy the headstone. |
| “That just blew me away,” Ms. Singleton said. | “That just blew me away,” Ms. Singleton said. |
| Then, last week, The Detroit News published an article about Kaleb’s effort and the fund-raising campaign took off. As of Wednesday, the donation page said it had received more than 3,000 contributions — no odd jobs required. | Then, last week, The Detroit News published an article about Kaleb’s effort and the fund-raising campaign took off. As of Wednesday, the donation page said it had received more than 3,000 contributions — no odd jobs required. |
| Though the page said the $2,500 pledge goal had been met, it did not say how much money had been raised. Ms. Hall said she would disclose the amount only to Ms. Singleton. But she allowed that Ms. Singleton would end up with extra money. | Though the page said the $2,500 pledge goal had been met, it did not say how much money had been raised. Ms. Hall said she would disclose the amount only to Ms. Singleton. But she allowed that Ms. Singleton would end up with extra money. |
| For his part, Kaleb said he was happy that people were giving. | For his part, Kaleb said he was happy that people were giving. |
| “Honestly, I’m just proud of him for doing what he should do — what everybody should do,” Ms. Hall said. “We should help people we love.” | “Honestly, I’m just proud of him for doing what he should do — what everybody should do,” Ms. Hall said. “We should help people we love.” |
| In a telephone interview on Sunday, Ms. Singleton said she was not sure what she wanted her son’s headstone to say. “I’ve procrastinated because it makes it final for me,” she said. | In a telephone interview on Sunday, Ms. Singleton said she was not sure what she wanted her son’s headstone to say. “I’ve procrastinated because it makes it final for me,” she said. |
| The next evening, she went to select one. Ms. Hall and Kaleb accompanied her. | The next evening, she went to select one. Ms. Hall and Kaleb accompanied her. |
| Asked on Tuesday whether she had decided what to inscribe, Ms. Singleton said she had: | Asked on Tuesday whether she had decided what to inscribe, Ms. Singleton said she had: |
| KJ Gross | KJ Gross |
| Cherished brother, son and friend | Cherished brother, son and friend |