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Ashley Gruber always made a point of paying attention in church. This helped salvage her wedding. | Ashley Gruber always made a point of paying attention in church. This helped salvage her wedding. |
Ms. Gruber and her fiancé, Jeph Mwaituka, had planned to be married March 21 before 230 guests, some traveling from as far as Tanzania, when group-gathering restrictions because of the coronavirus started tightening in Alabama. “It went from 50 to 25 to recommendations for fewer than 10 in a matter of days,” said Ms. Gruber, 33. By March 15, “things were starting to look bad, and I realized we might be in trouble,” she said. | Ms. Gruber and her fiancé, Jeph Mwaituka, had planned to be married March 21 before 230 guests, some traveling from as far as Tanzania, when group-gathering restrictions because of the coronavirus started tightening in Alabama. “It went from 50 to 25 to recommendations for fewer than 10 in a matter of days,” said Ms. Gruber, 33. By March 15, “things were starting to look bad, and I realized we might be in trouble,” she said. |
Then she remembered hearing that Oak City Church, the church Mr. Mwaituka introduced her to in 2018, was accommodating parishioners unable to make services. “They livestream on Sundays,” Ms. Gruber said. “I started thinking, let’s see if we can livestream the wedding.” | Then she remembered hearing that Oak City Church, the church Mr. Mwaituka introduced her to in 2018, was accommodating parishioners unable to make services. “They livestream on Sundays,” Ms. Gruber said. “I started thinking, let’s see if we can livestream the wedding.” |
Much would be lost: the collective tears shed in the packed church, the hugs and kisses from loved ones at the receiving line, the crowded dance floor and clinking of champagne glasses during the reception. But what both thought of as the most important part wouldn’t have to go. | Much would be lost: the collective tears shed in the packed church, the hugs and kisses from loved ones at the receiving line, the crowded dance floor and clinking of champagne glasses during the reception. But what both thought of as the most important part wouldn’t have to go. |
“The point was to be married,” Mr. Mwaituka said. “That’s something we could still do without the social interaction.” | “The point was to be married,” Mr. Mwaituka said. “That’s something we could still do without the social interaction.” |
Ms. Gruber and Mr. Mwaituka met in 2018 on the dating app Tinder. Ms. Gruber, a native of Birmingham, had recently returned from working overseas with the nonprofit organization International Relief and Development, which was at a Yemeni refugee camp. Since graduating in 2008 with a degree in nutrition from the University of Mississippi, she had spent several years abroad doing service work, including two years in Madagascar teaching expatriate children. In between stints overseas, she was a nanny for local families. | Ms. Gruber and Mr. Mwaituka met in 2018 on the dating app Tinder. Ms. Gruber, a native of Birmingham, had recently returned from working overseas with the nonprofit organization International Relief and Development, which was at a Yemeni refugee camp. Since graduating in 2008 with a degree in nutrition from the University of Mississippi, she had spent several years abroad doing service work, including two years in Madagascar teaching expatriate children. In between stints overseas, she was a nanny for local families. |
Altruism, she said, was a calling. She grew up Methodist with her parents, Connie and Tim Gruber, and a younger brother, Cory, and then became a Southern Baptist in college, before giving that up to join Mr. Mwaituka at the nondenominational Oak City. “The only way I can explain my wanting to help people is that it comes from the Lord,” she said. “He’s given me the ability to live in hard places.” | Altruism, she said, was a calling. She grew up Methodist with her parents, Connie and Tim Gruber, and a younger brother, Cory, and then became a Southern Baptist in college, before giving that up to join Mr. Mwaituka at the nondenominational Oak City. “The only way I can explain my wanting to help people is that it comes from the Lord,” she said. “He’s given me the ability to live in hard places.” |
Her 2018 return from abroad was prompted by a desire to help others more expertly. After working with a midwife at the refugee camp, Ms. Gruber said, “I saw how much more she could do than I could, and I figured I could help more people if I became a nurse.” She graduated from Jefferson State Community College with a nursing degree at the end of April. | Her 2018 return from abroad was prompted by a desire to help others more expertly. After working with a midwife at the refugee camp, Ms. Gruber said, “I saw how much more she could do than I could, and I figured I could help more people if I became a nurse.” She graduated from Jefferson State Community College with a nursing degree at the end of April. |
Signing up for Tinder while taking nursing classes and working full time as a Medicare recovery specialist for a subsidiary of Blue Cross Blue Shield, her current job, was more an afterthought than a priority. | Signing up for Tinder while taking nursing classes and working full time as a Medicare recovery specialist for a subsidiary of Blue Cross Blue Shield, her current job, was more an afterthought than a priority. |
“I know this is going to make me look weird, but the few times I got asked out through the years it didn’t seem right to me,” she said. A handful of first dates did not turn into second ones. “I think as women we go through phases. Sometimes I would be, like, ‘Nobody loves me, I’m all alone.’ But most of the time I was cool with being alone. I thought, I’m going to be productive.” | “I know this is going to make me look weird, but the few times I got asked out through the years it didn’t seem right to me,” she said. A handful of first dates did not turn into second ones. “I think as women we go through phases. Sometimes I would be, like, ‘Nobody loves me, I’m all alone.’ But most of the time I was cool with being alone. I thought, I’m going to be productive.” |
Staying single had the benefit of nurturing a sense of adventure and of oneness with the world. After college, she went to Australia for a summer of church work. Later she traveled to the Philippines to teach English. Before she left for Madagascar in 2012, she visited Thailand to volunteer with the nonprofit Compassion International. Always, she kept in touch. “I made really good relationships everywhere I went, and now I have extra families around the globe,” she said. | Staying single had the benefit of nurturing a sense of adventure and of oneness with the world. After college, she went to Australia for a summer of church work. Later she traveled to the Philippines to teach English. Before she left for Madagascar in 2012, she visited Thailand to volunteer with the nonprofit Compassion International. Always, she kept in touch. “I made really good relationships everywhere I went, and now I have extra families around the globe,” she said. |
Mr. Mwaituka, 29, didn’t need to leave his Birmingham home to develop an appreciation for other cultures. His parents, Helen and Fred Mwaituka, and younger brothers, John and Jerry Mwaituka, arrived in the United States in 1995 from Tanzania, after years of unrest in that country. Since then, their home has been a refuge for visiting family members. Some have stayed weeks. Some for years, including a cousin who is now like a sister, Hellen Mathias. “Growing up, it was always that way,” Mr. Mwaituka said. “Now I care for people from other places and people who need help by nature.” | Mr. Mwaituka, 29, didn’t need to leave his Birmingham home to develop an appreciation for other cultures. His parents, Helen and Fred Mwaituka, and younger brothers, John and Jerry Mwaituka, arrived in the United States in 1995 from Tanzania, after years of unrest in that country. Since then, their home has been a refuge for visiting family members. Some have stayed weeks. Some for years, including a cousin who is now like a sister, Hellen Mathias. “Growing up, it was always that way,” Mr. Mwaituka said. “Now I care for people from other places and people who need help by nature.” |
For a while, the aim of his helping instinct was spiritual. After graduating from Thompson High School in 2008, he went to Birmingham Metro Master’s Commission, a local Bible college. But less than a year into a position as a youth pastor, he switched professional gears, taking jobs in sales and as an electrical apprentice. Since 2018, he has been a groundskeeper at a local apartment complex. | For a while, the aim of his helping instinct was spiritual. After graduating from Thompson High School in 2008, he went to Birmingham Metro Master’s Commission, a local Bible college. But less than a year into a position as a youth pastor, he switched professional gears, taking jobs in sales and as an electrical apprentice. Since 2018, he has been a groundskeeper at a local apartment complex. |
Before he met Ms. Gruber, he tried a few dating sites. “I was on Christian Mingle, and then I tried Bumble, but nothing was happening,” he said. He deleted both accounts after what he called a lot of false starts. “Of course I had the desire to be in a relationship, but after a while I learned how to be on my own.” Romantically, anyway. | Before he met Ms. Gruber, he tried a few dating sites. “I was on Christian Mingle, and then I tried Bumble, but nothing was happening,” he said. He deleted both accounts after what he called a lot of false starts. “Of course I had the desire to be in a relationship, but after a while I learned how to be on my own.” Romantically, anyway. |
Mr. Mwaituka describes his personality as “bubbly.” Ms. Gruber said he knows “about a bajillion people. He doesn’t ever leave anyone a stranger.” His ease around others was on full display on their first date in November 2018 at Brixx Pizza in Birmingham. | Mr. Mwaituka describes his personality as “bubbly.” Ms. Gruber said he knows “about a bajillion people. He doesn’t ever leave anyone a stranger.” His ease around others was on full display on their first date in November 2018 at Brixx Pizza in Birmingham. |
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“We were just really comfortable with each other,” Ms. Gruber said. So much so that the waitress who served them assumed they were in love. “She thought we were a full-swing couple because we were so natural together.” Mr. Mwaituka was hoping that was the way it would stay. | “We were just really comfortable with each other,” Ms. Gruber said. So much so that the waitress who served them assumed they were in love. “She thought we were a full-swing couple because we were so natural together.” Mr. Mwaituka was hoping that was the way it would stay. |
“Ashley was really direct, and she loved to laugh, and she got my silly side, and it was just a hit,” he said. | “Ashley was really direct, and she loved to laugh, and she got my silly side, and it was just a hit,” he said. |
For Ms. Gruber, the ability to be herself felt freeing. The few dates she had gone on before Mr. Mwaituka had been a lesson in playing coy, or in needing to reel herself in. “I had to figure out, how much should I hold in? How much do I need to give to connect with somebody?” she said. “With Jeph, I stopped doing that. I was just like, ‘Hey, this is me, this is who I am. If you’re going to play a game, that’s on you.’” | For Ms. Gruber, the ability to be herself felt freeing. The few dates she had gone on before Mr. Mwaituka had been a lesson in playing coy, or in needing to reel herself in. “I had to figure out, how much should I hold in? How much do I need to give to connect with somebody?” she said. “With Jeph, I stopped doing that. I was just like, ‘Hey, this is me, this is who I am. If you’re going to play a game, that’s on you.’” |
But both wanted a serious relationship, the kind that led to marriage. Getting there didn’t happen overnight. “It took eight or nine dates until our first kiss,” Mr. Mwaituka said. “We were really just trying to figure each other out.” By early 2019, after meeting each other’s friends and families and spending more weeknights together than apart, they became a committed couple. | But both wanted a serious relationship, the kind that led to marriage. Getting there didn’t happen overnight. “It took eight or nine dates until our first kiss,” Mr. Mwaituka said. “We were really just trying to figure each other out.” By early 2019, after meeting each other’s friends and families and spending more weeknights together than apart, they became a committed couple. |
“It was dating with a purpose,” Ms. Gruber said. After she told him she loved him that spring, they started talking about marriage. Mr. Mwaituka was in no rush. “I wanted that to be the goal,” he said. But a walk down the aisle didn’t feel pressing until he started sensing Ms. Gruber’s anticipation. “Finally I said to myself, ‘Look, Jeph, you’re not going to meet another person like this.’” | “It was dating with a purpose,” Ms. Gruber said. After she told him she loved him that spring, they started talking about marriage. Mr. Mwaituka was in no rush. “I wanted that to be the goal,” he said. But a walk down the aisle didn’t feel pressing until he started sensing Ms. Gruber’s anticipation. “Finally I said to myself, ‘Look, Jeph, you’re not going to meet another person like this.’” |
October brought a trip to the Grand Canyon. Ms. Gruber was expecting a proposal there, but she wasn’t discouraged when it didn’t happen. They had already gone ring shopping at Diamonds Direct, so she knew it was a matter of time. Mr. Mwaituka was waiting for the perfect moment. | October brought a trip to the Grand Canyon. Ms. Gruber was expecting a proposal there, but she wasn’t discouraged when it didn’t happen. They had already gone ring shopping at Diamonds Direct, so she knew it was a matter of time. Mr. Mwaituka was waiting for the perfect moment. |
“You know how they say men don’t listen?” he said. He had been listening. “I knew she didn’t want to do it in public in some crazy way. She wanted it to be just me and her.” | “You know how they say men don’t listen?” he said. He had been listening. “I knew she didn’t want to do it in public in some crazy way. She wanted it to be just me and her.” |
After attending a friend’s engagement party on Nov. 22, he suggested they go to Brixx for pizza. On their way in, he dropped to one knee, pretending to tie his shoe. When Ms. Gruber turned to him, he produced a blue topaz ring they had chosen. “Will you marry me?” he asked. | After attending a friend’s engagement party on Nov. 22, he suggested they go to Brixx for pizza. On their way in, he dropped to one knee, pretending to tie his shoe. When Ms. Gruber turned to him, he produced a blue topaz ring they had chosen. “Will you marry me?” he asked. |
“She was jumping and giggling,” he said. As she said yes, strangers in the parking lot snapped pictures. Brixx celebrated with a free bottle of prosecco. | “She was jumping and giggling,” he said. As she said yes, strangers in the parking lot snapped pictures. Brixx celebrated with a free bottle of prosecco. |
The next four months were spent planning the wedding with Ms. Gruber’s mother. By February, their guest list had swelled to 275. Ms. Gruber chose three attendants; Mr. Mwaituka had four. When coronavirus restrictions hit in March, they were still receiving R.S.V.P.’s and had started working with a local wedding planner, Becky Dedge, to sort the details. On March 15, Oak City Church, where they were to be married, announced its temporary closure. The McWane Science Center, where they had planned a reception, closed the next day. | The next four months were spent planning the wedding with Ms. Gruber’s mother. By February, their guest list had swelled to 275. Ms. Gruber chose three attendants; Mr. Mwaituka had four. When coronavirus restrictions hit in March, they were still receiving R.S.V.P.’s and had started working with a local wedding planner, Becky Dedge, to sort the details. On March 15, Oak City Church, where they were to be married, announced its temporary closure. The McWane Science Center, where they had planned a reception, closed the next day. |
The church was willing to open its doors for a smaller ceremony. But then “our governor, bless her heart, instituted the 25 or less gathering policy,” Ms. Gruber said. Her thoughts turned to the church’s livestream, and the possibilities livestreaming presented for a wedding. Both rejected the idea of postponing. | The church was willing to open its doors for a smaller ceremony. But then “our governor, bless her heart, instituted the 25 or less gathering policy,” Ms. Gruber said. Her thoughts turned to the church’s livestream, and the possibilities livestreaming presented for a wedding. Both rejected the idea of postponing. |
“I didn’t want the current circumstances to dictate how I live,” Mr. Mwaituka said. Ms. Gruber didn’t either. Cory Gruber offered to put on a pared-down wedding on the deck at his Pelham house for the couple’s immediate families and close friends, like Sara and Kevin Ledlow. | “I didn’t want the current circumstances to dictate how I live,” Mr. Mwaituka said. Ms. Gruber didn’t either. Cory Gruber offered to put on a pared-down wedding on the deck at his Pelham house for the couple’s immediate families and close friends, like Sara and Kevin Ledlow. |
“They were laughing and smiling through all of this, which is just who they are,” Mr. Ledlow said. “We weren’t going to miss it.” | “They were laughing and smiling through all of this, which is just who they are,” Mr. Ledlow said. “We weren’t going to miss it.” |
On March 21, with their hundreds of distant guests watching via Facebook Live and their parents, siblings and handful of friends seated in folding chairs on Cory Gruber’s deck, they were married by the Rev. Jonathan Henderson, the lead pastor at Oak City Church. Ms. Gruber walked with her father down a short makeshift aisle. She wore a cap-sleeved white dress with a long train from Bella’s, a bridal boutique in Hoover, Ala. | On March 21, with their hundreds of distant guests watching via Facebook Live and their parents, siblings and handful of friends seated in folding chairs on Cory Gruber’s deck, they were married by the Rev. Jonathan Henderson, the lead pastor at Oak City Church. Ms. Gruber walked with her father down a short makeshift aisle. She wore a cap-sleeved white dress with a long train from Bella’s, a bridal boutique in Hoover, Ala. |
Updated June 12, 2020 | Updated June 12, 2020 |
So far, the evidence seems to show it does. A widely cited paper published in April suggests that people are most infectious about two days before the onset of coronavirus symptoms and estimated that 44 percent of new infections were a result of transmission from people who were not yet showing symptoms. Recently, a top expert at the World Health Organization stated that transmission of the coronavirus by people who did not have symptoms was “very rare,” but she later walked back that statement. | So far, the evidence seems to show it does. A widely cited paper published in April suggests that people are most infectious about two days before the onset of coronavirus symptoms and estimated that 44 percent of new infections were a result of transmission from people who were not yet showing symptoms. Recently, a top expert at the World Health Organization stated that transmission of the coronavirus by people who did not have symptoms was “very rare,” but she later walked back that statement. |
Touching contaminated objects and then infecting ourselves with the germs is not typically how the virus spreads. But it can happen. A number of studies of flu, rhinovirus, coronavirus and other microbes have shown that respiratory illnesses, including the new coronavirus, can spread by touching contaminated surfaces, particularly in places like day care centers, offices and hospitals. But a long chain of events has to happen for the disease to spread that way. The best way to protect yourself from coronavirus — whether it’s surface transmission or close human contact — is still social distancing, washing your hands, not touching your face and wearing masks. | |
A study by European scientists is the first to document a strong statistical link between genetic variations and Covid-19, the illness caused by the coronavirus. Having Type A blood was linked to a 50 percent increase in the likelihood that a patient would need to get oxygen or to go on a ventilator, according to the new study. | A study by European scientists is the first to document a strong statistical link between genetic variations and Covid-19, the illness caused by the coronavirus. Having Type A blood was linked to a 50 percent increase in the likelihood that a patient would need to get oxygen or to go on a ventilator, according to the new study. |
The unemployment rate fell to 13.3 percent in May, the Labor Department said on June 5, an unexpected improvement in the nation’s job market as hiring rebounded faster than economists expected. Economists had forecast the unemployment rate to increase to as much as 20 percent, after it hit 14.7 percent in April, which was the highest since the government began keeping official statistics after World War II. But the unemployment rate dipped instead, with employers adding 2.5 million jobs, after more than 20 million jobs were lost in April. | The unemployment rate fell to 13.3 percent in May, the Labor Department said on June 5, an unexpected improvement in the nation’s job market as hiring rebounded faster than economists expected. Economists had forecast the unemployment rate to increase to as much as 20 percent, after it hit 14.7 percent in April, which was the highest since the government began keeping official statistics after World War II. But the unemployment rate dipped instead, with employers adding 2.5 million jobs, after more than 20 million jobs were lost in April. |
Mass protests against police brutality that have brought thousands of people onto the streets in cities across America are raising the specter of new coronavirus outbreaks, prompting political leaders, physicians and public health experts to warn that the crowds could cause a surge in cases. While many political leaders affirmed the right of protesters to express themselves, they urged the demonstrators to wear face masks and maintain social distancing, both to protect themselves and to prevent further community spread of the virus. Some infectious disease experts were reassured by the fact that the protests were held outdoors, saying the open air settings could mitigate the risk of transmission. | Mass protests against police brutality that have brought thousands of people onto the streets in cities across America are raising the specter of new coronavirus outbreaks, prompting political leaders, physicians and public health experts to warn that the crowds could cause a surge in cases. While many political leaders affirmed the right of protesters to express themselves, they urged the demonstrators to wear face masks and maintain social distancing, both to protect themselves and to prevent further community spread of the virus. Some infectious disease experts were reassured by the fact that the protests were held outdoors, saying the open air settings could mitigate the risk of transmission. |
Exercise researchers and physicians have some blunt advice for those of us aiming to return to regular exercise now: Start slowly and then rev up your workouts, also slowly. American adults tended to be about 12 percent less active after the stay-at-home mandates began in March than they were in January. But there are steps you can take to ease your way back into regular exercise safely. First, “start at no more than 50 percent of the exercise you were doing before Covid,” says Dr. Monica Rho, the chief of musculoskeletal medicine at the Shirley Ryan AbilityLab in Chicago. Thread in some preparatory squats, too, she advises. “When you haven’t been exercising, you lose muscle mass.” Expect some muscle twinges after these preliminary, post-lockdown sessions, especially a day or two later. But sudden or increasing pain during exercise is a clarion call to stop and return home. | Exercise researchers and physicians have some blunt advice for those of us aiming to return to regular exercise now: Start slowly and then rev up your workouts, also slowly. American adults tended to be about 12 percent less active after the stay-at-home mandates began in March than they were in January. But there are steps you can take to ease your way back into regular exercise safely. First, “start at no more than 50 percent of the exercise you were doing before Covid,” says Dr. Monica Rho, the chief of musculoskeletal medicine at the Shirley Ryan AbilityLab in Chicago. Thread in some preparatory squats, too, she advises. “When you haven’t been exercising, you lose muscle mass.” Expect some muscle twinges after these preliminary, post-lockdown sessions, especially a day or two later. But sudden or increasing pain during exercise is a clarion call to stop and return home. |
States are reopening bit by bit. This means that more public spaces are available for use and more and more businesses are being allowed to open again. The federal government is largely leaving the decision up to states, and some state leaders are leaving the decision up to local authorities. Even if you aren’t being told to stay at home, it’s still a good idea to limit trips outside and your interaction with other people. | States are reopening bit by bit. This means that more public spaces are available for use and more and more businesses are being allowed to open again. The federal government is largely leaving the decision up to states, and some state leaders are leaving the decision up to local authorities. Even if you aren’t being told to stay at home, it’s still a good idea to limit trips outside and your interaction with other people. |
Common symptoms include fever, a dry cough, fatigue and difficulty breathing or shortness of breath. Some of these symptoms overlap with those of the flu, making detection difficult, but runny noses and stuffy sinuses are less common. The C.D.C. has also added chills, muscle pain, sore throat, headache and a new loss of the sense of taste or smell as symptoms to look out for. Most people fall ill five to seven days after exposure, but symptoms may appear in as few as two days or as many as 14 days. | Common symptoms include fever, a dry cough, fatigue and difficulty breathing or shortness of breath. Some of these symptoms overlap with those of the flu, making detection difficult, but runny noses and stuffy sinuses are less common. The C.D.C. has also added chills, muscle pain, sore throat, headache and a new loss of the sense of taste or smell as symptoms to look out for. Most people fall ill five to seven days after exposure, but symptoms may appear in as few as two days or as many as 14 days. |
If air travel is unavoidable, there are some steps you can take to protect yourself. Most important: Wash your hands often, and stop touching your face. If possible, choose a window seat. A study from Emory University found that during flu season, the safest place to sit on a plane is by a window, as people sitting in window seats had less contact with potentially sick people. Disinfect hard surfaces. When you get to your seat and your hands are clean, use disinfecting wipes to clean the hard surfaces at your seat like the head and arm rest, the seatbelt buckle, the remote, screen, seat back pocket and the tray table. If the seat is hard and nonporous or leather or pleather, you can wipe that down, too. (Using wipes on upholstered seats could lead to a wet seat and spreading of germs rather than killing them.) | If air travel is unavoidable, there are some steps you can take to protect yourself. Most important: Wash your hands often, and stop touching your face. If possible, choose a window seat. A study from Emory University found that during flu season, the safest place to sit on a plane is by a window, as people sitting in window seats had less contact with potentially sick people. Disinfect hard surfaces. When you get to your seat and your hands are clean, use disinfecting wipes to clean the hard surfaces at your seat like the head and arm rest, the seatbelt buckle, the remote, screen, seat back pocket and the tray table. If the seat is hard and nonporous or leather or pleather, you can wipe that down, too. (Using wipes on upholstered seats could lead to a wet seat and spreading of germs rather than killing them.) |
Taking one’s temperature to look for signs of fever is not as easy as it sounds, as “normal” temperature numbers can vary, but generally, keep an eye out for a temperature of 100.5 degrees Fahrenheit or higher. If you don’t have a thermometer (they can be pricey these days), there are other ways to figure out if you have a fever, or are at risk of Covid-19 complications. | Taking one’s temperature to look for signs of fever is not as easy as it sounds, as “normal” temperature numbers can vary, but generally, keep an eye out for a temperature of 100.5 degrees Fahrenheit or higher. If you don’t have a thermometer (they can be pricey these days), there are other ways to figure out if you have a fever, or are at risk of Covid-19 complications. |
The C.D.C. has recommended that all Americans wear cloth masks if they go out in public. This is a shift in federal guidance reflecting new concerns that the coronavirus is being spread by infected people who have no symptoms. Until now, the C.D.C., like the W.H.O., has advised that ordinary people don’t need to wear masks unless they are sick and coughing. Part of the reason was to preserve medical-grade masks for health care workers who desperately need them at a time when they are in continuously short supply. Masks don’t replace hand washing and social distancing. | The C.D.C. has recommended that all Americans wear cloth masks if they go out in public. This is a shift in federal guidance reflecting new concerns that the coronavirus is being spread by infected people who have no symptoms. Until now, the C.D.C., like the W.H.O., has advised that ordinary people don’t need to wear masks unless they are sick and coughing. Part of the reason was to preserve medical-grade masks for health care workers who desperately need them at a time when they are in continuously short supply. Masks don’t replace hand washing and social distancing. |
If you’ve been exposed to the coronavirus or think you have, and have a fever or symptoms like a cough or difficulty breathing, call a doctor. They should give you advice on whether you should be tested, how to get tested, and how to seek medical treatment without potentially infecting or exposing others. | If you’ve been exposed to the coronavirus or think you have, and have a fever or symptoms like a cough or difficulty breathing, call a doctor. They should give you advice on whether you should be tested, how to get tested, and how to seek medical treatment without potentially infecting or exposing others. |
If you’re sick and you think you’ve been exposed to the new coronavirus, the C.D.C. recommends that you call your healthcare provider and explain your symptoms and fears. They will decide if you need to be tested. Keep in mind that there’s a chance — because of a lack of testing kits or because you’re asymptomatic, for instance — you won’t be able to get tested. | If you’re sick and you think you’ve been exposed to the new coronavirus, the C.D.C. recommends that you call your healthcare provider and explain your symptoms and fears. They will decide if you need to be tested. Keep in mind that there’s a chance — because of a lack of testing kits or because you’re asymptomatic, for instance — you won’t be able to get tested. |
“I waited 33 stinking years to wear that dress,” she said. “That part I wasn’t going to change.” | “I waited 33 stinking years to wear that dress,” she said. “That part I wasn’t going to change.” |
Alesia Pruitt, a friend since middle school, stood by her side. Mr. Mwaituka wore a navy suit. Mr. Ledlow and another friend, Jeremy Smith, served as groomsmen. | Alesia Pruitt, a friend since middle school, stood by her side. Mr. Mwaituka wore a navy suit. Mr. Ledlow and another friend, Jeremy Smith, served as groomsmen. |
After a prayer, Mr. Henderson saluted Ms. Gruber and Mr. Mwaituka for their perseverance. “Love never gives up,” he said. “We’ve seen that this week.” | After a prayer, Mr. Henderson saluted Ms. Gruber and Mr. Mwaituka for their perseverance. “Love never gives up,” he said. “We’ve seen that this week.” |
On the livestream video, birds could be heard singing in nearby trees as Mr. Henderson encouraged the couple to be fruitful and multiply. Just after he pronounced them husband and wife, they threw up their hands in victory. | On the livestream video, birds could be heard singing in nearby trees as Mr. Henderson encouraged the couple to be fruitful and multiply. Just after he pronounced them husband and wife, they threw up their hands in victory. |
When March 21, 2020 | When March 21, 2020 |
Where Pelham, Ala. | Where Pelham, Ala. |
Cheek to (Single) Cheek At an intimate reception, couples used the deck as a dance floor. They all proceeded with caution. Because of social distancing, “nobody changed partners,” Mr. Ledlow said. | Cheek to (Single) Cheek At an intimate reception, couples used the deck as a dance floor. They all proceeded with caution. Because of social distancing, “nobody changed partners,” Mr. Ledlow said. |
Leftovers A wedding cake for 250 from Daughters Baking was too far along to be canceled, so a portion was brought in for the scaled-down reception. The rest was frozen. “We’re going to be eating a ton of cake,” Ms. Gruber said. | Leftovers A wedding cake for 250 from Daughters Baking was too far along to be canceled, so a portion was brought in for the scaled-down reception. The rest was frozen. “We’re going to be eating a ton of cake,” Ms. Gruber said. |
Post-Wedding Pack Up Throughout their courtship, Mr. Mwaituka had been living with his parents. Just after the wedding, he planned to move into Ms. Gruber’s townhouse in Birmingham. | Post-Wedding Pack Up Throughout their courtship, Mr. Mwaituka had been living with his parents. Just after the wedding, he planned to move into Ms. Gruber’s townhouse in Birmingham. |
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