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Friend's plea on night of murder Friend's plea on night of murder
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Mrs Grabham had told her mother she wanted to make a go of her marriageMrs Grabham had told her mother she wanted to make a go of her marriage
On the night of her brutal murder, a friend of Kirsty Grabham's had tried to persuade the 24-year-old not to return home to the flat she shared with her husband.On the night of her brutal murder, a friend of Kirsty Grabham's had tried to persuade the 24-year-old not to return home to the flat she shared with her husband.
Mrs Grabham, of Swansea, had been on a night out in the city with friends and her husband, Paul Grabham, 26, who has been found guilty of her murder at Swansea Crown Court.Mrs Grabham, of Swansea, had been on a night out in the city with friends and her husband, Paul Grabham, 26, who has been found guilty of her murder at Swansea Crown Court.
Friends said the couple regularly argued, and they had another row while at a nightclub that evening.Friends said the couple regularly argued, and they had another row while at a nightclub that evening.
They went their separate ways, with Paul Grabham leaving the city centre venue while his wife stayed there with her friends.They went their separate ways, with Paul Grabham leaving the city centre venue while his wife stayed there with her friends.
Mrs Grabham eventually left the club - in the early hours of 28 March last year - and went to a friend's house where she chatted about her marital problems.Mrs Grabham eventually left the club - in the early hours of 28 March last year - and went to a friend's house where she chatted about her marital problems.
A friend tried to get her to spend the night at the house but Mrs Grabham declined the offer and decided to take a taxi home where, as the jury heard, she was later murdered by her husband after a violent dispute.A friend tried to get her to spend the night at the house but Mrs Grabham declined the offer and decided to take a taxi home where, as the jury heard, she was later murdered by her husband after a violent dispute.
He later put her body into a suitcase where it was found on 6 April in undergrowth near the M4 at Bridgend.He later put her body into a suitcase where it was found on 6 April in undergrowth near the M4 at Bridgend.
The case was brought to us by Paul Grabham himself who reported his wife as a missing person but we were unhappy with the account Mr Grabham gave us Det Ch Insp Dorian Lloyd The case was brought to us by Paul Grabham himself who reported his wife as a missing person but we were unhappy with the account Mr Grabham gave us Det Ch Insp Dorian Lloyd class="" href="/2/hi/uk_news/wales/south_west/8497980.stm">Husband guilty of body-in-suitcase murder class="" href="/2/hi/uk_news/wales/south_west/8498921.stm">Couple's unconventional lifestyle
Paloma De-Toro-Foley, who was out with Mrs Grabham at the nightclub, had left the venue with her before they caught a taxi to the home of a friend, Lisa Oliver, who had left the club earlier and gone to bed.Paloma De-Toro-Foley, who was out with Mrs Grabham at the nightclub, had left the venue with her before they caught a taxi to the home of a friend, Lisa Oliver, who had left the club earlier and gone to bed.
They chatted about Mrs Grabham's marriage, including an incident in which her husband had strangled her so hard, she had wet herself.They chatted about Mrs Grabham's marriage, including an incident in which her husband had strangled her so hard, she had wet herself.
"He eventually let her go because I think he realised what he had done to her but she said she was so scared at that point, she had seen his true colours and realised what he was like," Ms De-Toro-Foley told BBC Wales."He eventually let her go because I think he realised what he had done to her but she said she was so scared at that point, she had seen his true colours and realised what he was like," Ms De-Toro-Foley told BBC Wales.
"She was also saying about him cheating on her."She was also saying about him cheating on her.
"She said he cheated on her five times and each time she had taken him back and found him on these websites, porn websites and things, and she said 'I don't know how much more of this I can take until I walk away because it's just crushing me now'.""She said he cheated on her five times and each time she had taken him back and found him on these websites, porn websites and things, and she said 'I don't know how much more of this I can take until I walk away because it's just crushing me now'."
Ms De-Toro-Foley had only met Mrs Grabham properly for the first time that night but said they had immediately hit it off.Ms De-Toro-Foley had only met Mrs Grabham properly for the first time that night but said they had immediately hit it off.
She tried to persuade her new friend to stay at Ms Oliver's home and allow the dust to settle on the argument with her husband in the club.She tried to persuade her new friend to stay at Ms Oliver's home and allow the dust to settle on the argument with her husband in the club.
Paul Grabham was suspected by police from the outsetPaul Grabham was suspected by police from the outset
"I couldn't talk her round. She was adamant she wanted to go home so I phoned a taxi for her. The taxi came within about 10 minutes," she said."I couldn't talk her round. She was adamant she wanted to go home so I phoned a taxi for her. The taxi came within about 10 minutes," she said.
"It was across the road, we were still in the kitchen, and I wrote my name and number on a piece of paper for her. I said 'phone me or text me' as soon as you get in just to make sure you are all right.""It was across the road, we were still in the kitchen, and I wrote my name and number on a piece of paper for her. I said 'phone me or text me' as soon as you get in just to make sure you are all right."
Sure enough, about five or 10 minutes later, Mrs Grabham sent a text saying she was safely home and her husband was asleep on the floor.Sure enough, about five or 10 minutes later, Mrs Grabham sent a text saying she was safely home and her husband was asleep on the floor.
Ms De-Toro-Foley, who was one of the last people to see Mrs Grabham alive, said she blamed herself for a while for what had happened.Ms De-Toro-Foley, who was one of the last people to see Mrs Grabham alive, said she blamed herself for a while for what had happened.
"I said if I just made her stay, she would have been all right. If I had just made her stay," she said."I said if I just made her stay, she would have been all right. If I had just made her stay," she said.
"But then obviously my friends kept saying 'you can't blame yourself' because I wasn't to know was going to happen."But then obviously my friends kept saying 'you can't blame yourself' because I wasn't to know was going to happen.
"Even if she had gone home the next day, how do we know it wouldn't have happened the next day?""Even if she had gone home the next day, how do we know it wouldn't have happened the next day?"
Detectives identified the Grabham's flat as a crime sceneDetectives identified the Grabham's flat as a crime scene
Swansea Crown Court had been told during the trial that Mrs Grabham's mother, Catherine Broomfield, had tried to persuade her to leave her husband after one attack.Swansea Crown Court had been told during the trial that Mrs Grabham's mother, Catherine Broomfield, had tried to persuade her to leave her husband after one attack.
But Mrs Grabham had told her mother that she wanted to "make a go" of their marriage.But Mrs Grabham had told her mother that she wanted to "make a go" of their marriage.
Another friend Ms Oliver, who was at the nightclub with Mrs Grabham that evening, said: "She talked to me not on the night but in general - she talked about Paul, about him being unfaithful.Another friend Ms Oliver, who was at the nightclub with Mrs Grabham that evening, said: "She talked to me not on the night but in general - she talked about Paul, about him being unfaithful.
"She told me he was her husband and that's that. She's got to give it a go."She told me he was her husband and that's that. She's got to give it a go.
"I told her she could do better than him but at the end of the day, she said she was married to him and that was all that mattered.""I told her she could do better than him but at the end of the day, she said she was married to him and that was all that mattered."
As soon as Paul Grabham had reported his wife as missing to police, detectives had suspected him.As soon as Paul Grabham had reported his wife as missing to police, detectives had suspected him.
"The case was brought to us by Paul Grabham himself who reported his wife as a missing person but we were unhappy with the account Mr Grabham gave us and [we] challenged that account," said Det Ch Insp Dorian Lloyd."The case was brought to us by Paul Grabham himself who reported his wife as a missing person but we were unhappy with the account Mr Grabham gave us and [we] challenged that account," said Det Ch Insp Dorian Lloyd.
Kirsty Grabham's body was found in a suitcase near the M4Kirsty Grabham's body was found in a suitcase near the M4
"As a result of that process, we felt that something more sinister had happened to Kirsty.""As a result of that process, we felt that something more sinister had happened to Kirsty."
Det Ch Insp Lloyd said Mr Grabham's account was at odds with some information received from other witnesses so he was arrested on suspicion of murder.Det Ch Insp Lloyd said Mr Grabham's account was at odds with some information received from other witnesses so he was arrested on suspicion of murder.
"During the course of the investigation, which has been a 10-month investigation, we have interviewed hundreds of people, we have obtained over 600 statements and throughout this whole process, the evidence has pointed at Mr Grabham at all times," he said."During the course of the investigation, which has been a 10-month investigation, we have interviewed hundreds of people, we have obtained over 600 statements and throughout this whole process, the evidence has pointed at Mr Grabham at all times," he said.
He said detectives identified that the couple's home was a crime scene, while mobile phone checks added further evidence.He said detectives identified that the couple's home was a crime scene, while mobile phone checks added further evidence.
"Telephone inquiries led us to believe that Paul Grabham had been at their home address at the time of the attack upon Kirsty, but also had been to the area where Kirsty's body had been found which was a rather remote area at the side of the M4 motorway," he said."Telephone inquiries led us to believe that Paul Grabham had been at their home address at the time of the attack upon Kirsty, but also had been to the area where Kirsty's body had been found which was a rather remote area at the side of the M4 motorway," he said.