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My 72-year-old father is having an affair but my mum wont' leave him My 72-year-old father is having an affair but my mum won't leave him
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I have discovered that my 72-year-old father is having an affair with a 26-year-old. It's not the first time. Mum is heartbroken and wants him to stop. My sister and I have spoken to him and explained the humiliation we feel. My dad claims that because my mum had an affair 40 years ago he's not forgiven her, and this is all her fault. My sister went as far as calling the girl; my mum confronted her. I'm 40 and single, and have just started a relationship that's three months new. This is affecting me: my trust radar is off kilter. I'm ashamed of my family's actions. Dad is a pervert in my eyes and mum is weak: she won't leave. I want to wash my hands of it, but my mum keeps looking for support and I do want to protect her. But all she wants is my sister and I to do something to stop the affair. Any advice to keep sanity in check?I have discovered that my 72-year-old father is having an affair with a 26-year-old. It's not the first time. Mum is heartbroken and wants him to stop. My sister and I have spoken to him and explained the humiliation we feel. My dad claims that because my mum had an affair 40 years ago he's not forgiven her, and this is all her fault. My sister went as far as calling the girl; my mum confronted her. I'm 40 and single, and have just started a relationship that's three months new. This is affecting me: my trust radar is off kilter. I'm ashamed of my family's actions. Dad is a pervert in my eyes and mum is weak: she won't leave. I want to wash my hands of it, but my mum keeps looking for support and I do want to protect her. But all she wants is my sister and I to do something to stop the affair. Any advice to keep sanity in check?
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