My partner went to dinner with his ex, even though I asked him not to
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Version 0 of 1. I’ve been in a steady relationship for six years. I am nearly 60 and he is nearly 70. I would have considered him my best friend. We had plans to live together. Before we met, he had been in a relationship for two years with a woman 20 years his junior. She ended it and he was broken-hearted. Recently, he said he had met her locally and she then rang to ask him out to dinner. I asked him not to go and said it would upset me. He said he didn’t like being told what to do and went. We have talked about it and he insists she is only a friend and he would go again. I’ve been more than upset and can’t stop crying. We are not talking now and I feel the loss of a good relationship. • When leaving a message on this page, please be sensitive to the fact that you are responding to a real person in the grip of a real-life dilemma, who wrote to Private Lives asking for help, and may well view your comments here. Please consider especially how your words or the tone of your message could be perceived by someone in this situation, and be aware that comments which appear to be disruptive or disrespectful to the individual concerned will be removed. • If you would like fellow readers to respond to a dilemma of yours, send us an outline of the situation of about 150 words. For advice from Pamela Stephenson Connolly on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns. • All correspondence should reach us by Wednesday morning. Email: private.lives@theguardian.com (please don’t send attachments). |