I don’t trust my girlfriend since we got back together

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/oct/03/i-dont-trust-my-girlfriend-lose-my-temper

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I have been with my girlfriend for nearly three years. However, we broke up for about four to five months around Christmas because of her lack of trust in me and her belief that I was cheating on her – which I was not. In that time she began to see another man, which made me extremely jealous and desperate to get her back.

We have since got back together, and I now find I don’t trust her and am suspicious of her behaviour. I find myself starting arguments with her where I lose my temper, scream at her, call her names and my behaviour is generally unacceptable. She says that I don’t show her any affection and constantly put her down, and I am not even aware that I am doing so.

I wholeheartedly love her but I fear the relationship has become emotionally damaging for both of us, and I don’t feel I can be with her any more because I have too much anxiety over my overriding negative emotions towards her. She doesn’t want the relationship to end, but I feel that is the only course of action left. Where do I go from here?

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