My wife’s driving turns me into a nervous wreck

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/jan/16/wifes-driving-turns-me-into-nervous-wreck

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I am finding my wife’s driving increasingly alarming. We are both active and fairly independent people in our mid-60s. I’m sure I have slowed down as we have aged, but it seems as if she has speeded up. A trip with her at the wheel feels uncomfortable and erratic, bordering on the dangerous at times. She shows scant regard for speed limits and, after a journey in her car, I’m usually a nervous wreck. I’m also worried when she is out driving on her own. Any attempt to pass comment or discuss this simply meets with hostility, however I approach it. I am sure she would benefit from an advanced driving course, but we can’t even discuss it. We get on moderately well otherwise. What can I do?

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